ANDEE TAGLE, HOST:
This is NPR’s LIFE KIT. Hinge and Bumble and Grindr and Lex, HER, JDate, Match, Tinder, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish – dating apps are a dime a dozen these days. They come in all different styles and flavors but offer users the same twinkling hope – love at first swipe. Maybe you’re thrilled about all the opportunity at your fingertips or maybe you’re absolutely exhausted by it all or just wary of strangers online. Wherever you fall on the spectrum, dating apps, especially in the past year and a half, have become a bigger part of our romantic lives than ever before. So how do you make the most of it?
JOHN PAUL BRAMMER: For me, it’s been super important to just remember the stakes don’t have to be so high every time.
TAGLE: That’s John Paul Brammer, writer and author of “Hola Papi,” a collection of essays that shares the name of his popular advice column. Fun fact – Brammer’s column actually started through Grindr. He’s going to help us process the many fears and feelings that come with the dating app world.
BRAMMER: Putting yourself out there is scary, especially – there’s always something about us that can shake, can wobble. Oftentimes, we look into that bad date and we think, OK, what’s wrong with me? Like, what do I need to fix?
TAGLE: But a date isn’t …….